You’re terrified that saying no will make people angry or disappointed, so you overcommit and underdeliver on your own wellbeing. We help you learn to prioritize yourself without feeling guilty about it.
You say yes to every request even when you don’t have time. You apologize for things that aren’t your fault. You avoid conflict so much that you agree with people when you actually disagree with them. You’re exhausted from making everyone else happy while your own needs get ignored.
People-pleasing feels like being kind, but really it’s running yourself into the ground trying to control how others see you. You’re terrified that saying no will make people angry or disappointed, so you overcommit and underdeliver on your own wellbeing.
Therapy for people-pleasing in Philadelphia helps when you’re tired of being everyone’s go-to person and want to learn how to prioritize yourself without feeling guilty about it.
Therapy for people-pleasing helps you identify your own needs and wants, which can be surprisingly hard when you’ve spent years focusing on everyone else. You learn the difference between being genuinely helpful and being afraid of disappointing people.
After people-pleasing therapy, saying no becomes easier because you understand that healthy relationships can handle boundaries. You stop feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions. You realize that people who get angry when you set limits probably weren’t respecting you anyway.
You’ll develop confidence in your own opinions and preferences instead of constantly adapting to what others want. This helps you build more authentic relationships where people like you for who you actually are, not just because you never disagree with them.
Our Approach to People-Pleasing Therapy
Our people-pleasing therapy approach recognizes that people-pleasing develops as a survival strategy. Maybe you learned that keeping others happy kept you safe or earned you love. We help you understand why it made sense and how it’s affecting you now.
We help you identify what you actually want when you typically go along with others. This can be difficult when you’ve spent years suppressing your preferences. We practice noticing your gut reactions before automatically deferring to what others want.
People-pleasing therapy includes gradual exposure to setting boundaries and disappointing people. We start with low-stakes situations and build your tolerance for negative reactions. The goal isn’t becoming selfish – it’s becoming balanced in considering your needs alongside others’ needs.
What to Expect in Sessions
People-pleasing therapy sessions include identifying specific situations where you automatically say yes when you want to say no. We examine what you’re afraid will happen if you disappoint someone and whether those fears are realistic or based on old patterns.
We practice scripts for setting boundaries and saying no in different situations. You’ll learn phrases that feel natural to you for declining requests, expressing disagreement, or asking for what you need. We role-play these conversations so they feel less scary in real life.
Between sessions, you practice setting small boundaries and notice what actually happens. Most people-pleasers are surprised to discover that reasonable people handle boundaries just fine, and the ones who don’t weren’t treating them well anyway.
Areas We Serve
Our people-pleasing therapy practice is located in Center City Philadelphia and serves clients throughout the region. We find it’s common for people-pleasers to come from neighborhoods like Fishtown, Northern Liberties, and Port Richmond where community and family expectations can make saying no feel selfish.
Many clients drive in from suburban areas like Ambler, Glenside, and Willow Grove where the pressure to be helpful and accommodating can become overwhelming. We also work with people from South Philadelphia neighborhoods including Passyunk Square and East Passyunk where tight-knit communities sometimes make boundaries feel impossible.
Regardless of where you’re from in Philadelphia, we understand how people-pleasing might be affecting your relationships and wellbeing. We also offer online therapy sessions for clients who prefer the convenience of meeting from home.
Philadelphia Counseling Office
In the heart of Center City Philadelphia, our office offers you convenient access to expert care. With flexible appointment times to accommodate your busy schedule, we’re committed to making your counseling journey as seamless as possible. Also offering online counseling in PA and NJ.
Ready to stop putting everyone else first? Schedule a consultation to discuss your people-pleasing patterns and see if our approach is right for you. You deserve to have your needs matter too.
